Five things to remember before calling it quits

Cynthia W. Otieno, Relationship and Transformational Coach

1. Opposites attract: The irony is, the thing that drew you to your partner, is the thing that will be the stumbling block in the relationship. We attract the things we don’t have. For instance if you’re noisy, you will be attracted to a quiet person because you admire that element of composure in them. But as the storming stages of a relationship show up, you will expect your partner to handle issues the way you do. You talk about it. He remains silent. This is who you met but suddenly he is crucified for that very attribute which pulled you to him in the first place. The best solution is to remember your differences and accept them then, find a way to complement each other.

2. Time is a gift: It takes years to build a successful business. It takes years to build a successful marriage. But like in business, there need to have clear guidelines and a clear map on where you both want to go. In order to accomplish this, is it crucial that both parties always remember you are playing on the same side. Focus less on the weaknesses. Work to the strengths of each other to get to your desired destination.