Why you should resolve not to make any New Year resolutions

Statistics indicate that only 10 per cent of people who make New Year’s resolutions stick to them. [iStockphoto]

Everyone has a mental list of habits they would like to change, and the New Year seems like a perfect time to start.

“New Year, new you” is a phrase you will see repeated in prints this month. But this is just singsong rhetoric. Just because it sounds right to your ear does not mean that it contains any meaningful truth.

The year will certainly change, but you will likely be the same person on January 1, 2023, that you were on December 31, 2023.

The statistics indicate that only 10 per cent of people who make New Year’s resolutions stick to them, and those who don’t usually abandon them after one month.

Unrealistic resolutions are fated to fail. And it is unrealistic to think that you can immediately overcome a habit you have spent years establishing.

But is this necessarily harmful? There is a good chance that it is. If your New Year’s resolution is to eat less, but you have no plan in place — or even if you do have a plan and you fail — you will do damage to your sense of self-worth.

If you already have a complicated relationship with food, your likely coping mechanism for failure is eating more food. Thus the New Year’s resolution to eat less can actually result in your eating more. Beer drinking, smoking, drug use, finding a mate, exercising, etc.

The practice of making resolutions itself dates back to ancient Babylon (modern-day Iraq). Babylonians made promises to their gods for the New Year, often having to do with concrete, easily achievable tasks like vowing to return borrowed farm equipment.

Now promises are made to ourselves and are primarily psychological in nature. With the threat of godly repercussion removed and more complex problems to solve, the odds of success are significantly reduced.

When you tie your behavioural change to a specific date, you rob yourself of an opportunity to fail and recover, to “fail better”. If you believe that you can only change on the New Year — the inherent message of New Year’s resolutions — you will have to wait a whole year before you get another shot.

Just the act of making a resolution can make you feel temporarily better; enough that it obviates further action. In the book Sham: How the Self –Help Movement Made America Helpless, Steve Salerno observes that,  if  you don’t know people who make the same resolutions year after year, then maybe you are that person. 

His concern is that the resolution you make always replaces action, and is true with millions of people who sign up for self-help programmes in the US: They think some magic words, some asserted promise, will magically transform their lives, but reality is that the real transformational work is tough, grueling, and usually involves sacrifice and unpleasant choices.

The second danger is that chronic problem can be transferred to the pursuit of self-help. Salerno explains that we are a culture that is hooked to resolutions and affirmation and rosy rhetoric but, meanwhile, nothing actually changes. The addiction to resolutions and promises replaces the original addiction or chronic problem.

Here’s a better idea. Instead of listing an abstract goal like “lose weight,” think of specific small steps you can take, every day that will have the same result. If you fail at any of these small steps — which you inevitably will — brush it off, and realise that failure and recovery is part of any process.

And don’t tie your list to any specific date, and don’t wait a year to start again when you slide down. Or try copy what theologian Jonathan Edwards of US did and compile a list of 70 resolutions, to be reviewed every week and Preferably ones that include exceptions: “Resolved, never to speak evil of any, except that I have some particular good call for it.” And if any of you have borrowed farm equipment this year, you have got an easy place to start.

-Mr Okwaro comment on emerging trends