My girlfriend has invited another girl into our bed but I am hesitant

My girlfriend and I are both 28 and have been seeing each other for a couple of months.

She is quite sexually adventurous and has suggested a threesome – with another girl.

The thing is, while the idea turns me on I think my girlfriend could turn out to be “the one” and I don’t want to look back on this and regret it.

It kind-of spoils the romance for me. Does that sound sad? I know most guys would jump at the chance, but something is holding me back.

Coleen says

I think you need to have a proper discussion first rather than doing it on a whim. And you need to express your fears.

Tell her you think your relationship is special and could become more serious, and that you’re worried a threesome might change things. A lot of the time, threesomes happen on the spur of the moment.

You might enjoy the experience, but think of it as a one-off – you might never want to do it again or you might discover it’s your thing.

However, if your girlfriend is planning it, that’s a different kettle of fish. If that’s what she’s into and she’d like to involve other people on a regular basis, then you have to ask yourself if you’re really compatible.

And if you agree to this, what’s the next thing?

The thing is, you can be sexually adventurous without involving others.

And you’re not left with the potential insecurities and jealousies that could threaten your relationship.