4 lies you should never tell your man

-Adapted from Yahoo.com

White lies don't doom a marriage, right?

Sometimes we lie when we don't want to upset, annoy or scare our spouse. At times the truth is so abrasive that we find it easier to lie.  But fibbing is a slippery slope.

"When you lie continually, you won't be able to keep your lies straight. Your husband will find out you're lying, and then there's no trust," says biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, PhD, Chief Scientific Officer of Chemistry.com and Match.com.

And a marriage like that isn't one you want to be in. Here, experts explain common lies women tell, how they can harm the relationship and what you can do instead of stretching the truth.

"I never talk about our personal life with my friends."
Some women tell their girlfriends about relationship problems, knowing their guys would be upset if they found out. "It's important for spouses to feel like their marriage is a secret, sacred space," says licensed marriage and family therapist Carin Goldstein, creator of Be the Smart Wife. Taking private information to a friend means you're running from a problem to avoid confrontation.

Venting about your husband's messy closet is one thing, but don't take serious issues public. "If you're constantly asking a friend how to solve a problem in your marriage, then you're going to the wrong source," says Goldstein. "You're stunting your relationship by trying to fix the issue with another person."

"I've never seen him outside of work."
If you think your husband can't handle your friendship with another man, you may think telling him about your relationship would create tension. "Partners lie about meeting up with friends of the opposite sex because they believe they won't get caught-and they'd prefer not to open a can of worms," says Dr. Brosh.

But if you say you don't see a male friend and then do, innocent interactions can feel like betrayal if your husband finds out. "Tell your spouse you don't want to jeopardize your marriage for a friendship with your coworker, but you'd like to understand what bothers him about the relationship," says Dr. Brosh. "Work on what's triggering the jealousy. When two people feel a sense of safety in the relationship, having an opposite-sex friendship becomes less of an issue.

"Of course you're great in bed. I'm totally satisfied."
Whether it's singing his praises or faking an orgasm, lying about between-the-sheets fulfillment happens a lot. "Wives don't want to feel responsible for their husband's shame," says Goldstein.

Dealing with dissatisfaction this way actually deepens the issue. "If a need's not being met, the problem will get bigger," says Goldstein. So nip it in the bud. "First, ask yourself why you can't orgasm. Figure out what works for your body, and then say, 'I love it when you do this. Let's keep doing that.'" Positive reinforcement encourages your husband to continue doing the things you like in bed, which ultimately satisfies you both. Bonus: You build his confidence and spare his feelings.

"I had only one glass of wine."
Your husband may have told you he doesn't like how you act when you drink too much. "Maybe you flirt with other men or yell, which makes your husband critical of you," explains Andra Brosh, PhD. So now you hide how many glasses of wine you've had so he's not on the lookout for bad behavior.

The problem grows when you start layering lies. "You might stop telling your partner where you're going out or make up stories about why you drank, which erodes trust even more." Instead of covering up your drinking habits, address your husband's concerns and work on solutions for valid issues together.