The hard reality of feminism today

The feminist movement is one of the best forums the world has seen. It continues to attract good and bad press as it morphs.

The way I see it, this movement came along to help us realise we are angry at discrimination and a myriad of other injustices. Nobody can deny that women had to react to suppression and repression.

On this front, feminists opened us to speak and demand for justice. To a great extent we are doing great on that front. Like any other phase of awakening, women must graduate from the feminist phase and move to the next level when it is time. This is the lesson feminism rarely touches. It is understandable though because what we draw from feminism will be individual.

What I find stale about feminist groups is their reluctance to move on from the anger phase. This phase makes women feel victimized and owed. The longer we stick there the more we discredit our growth.

The solution seeking phase and manifestation of a woman’s power phase rarely needs group work.

This is due to our nature. We are creators, so what our lives demand that we create will in most cases guide us to an isolation or brooding period.

Many women are scared of this powerful stage of their journey.

Much as we work better together, most of the projects we will bring to the board table will be thought of in isolation. Then when we need to pull together we will seek our teams. We need to respect the isolation period and not shun it.

When we run from it we have repeat problems, we are agitated and keep turning to demonstrations. As if on cue, the more we hesitate to hibernate and create, the more our discomforts magnify and replicate.

Some of the pillars of feminist teachings are the recognition of the current systems in administration, education, finances and family. We recognise that most of them have very little space for us, then what?

We choose to stay in feminist activist mode which makes us militant, competitive and exhausted.

At the end only a handful of us survive the equality battle. I think it is time we realise that feminism is part of the journey and not the answer.

We need to stop this equality race, it is not practical. We are not unequal to anyone. The things we seek to survive today may make us feel unequal and inadequate but it does not have to get us all over the place demanding for what our brothers have positioned themselves to have.

We are women, we have esoteric wisdom, and we will survive anything because we have helped create it. If it does not fit right, we isolate and create another one that does. We need to stop buying into this weakness talk; it’s done its time. We are our own strength; our inborn and adapted strength cannot be controlled by anyone without our permission.

It is scary because it is not the norm but look at how equality has hurt us. Look at the women working thrice as hard in the positions of power today. See how they get pushed around.

Let us look at this world like a kingdom. We are the queens. Our roles are clear sometimes and complicated sometimes, but we keep going.

We cannot wake up and decide we are done being queens and be the warriors. We can however guide the warriors if they are not working well and we feel exposed.

The kings may make decisions that are not of benefit to the kingdom, we can ask them to rescind. I do not think we can be great kings if we are not great queens. Our inputs as queens will ensure solid kingdoms. Trying to be kings will not, it will just widen our practical realities. Besides, a queen has far too many roles to start competing.

So, when you recognise that you are getting alienated and disillusioned by your anger at men, divert your energy to be the woman you want to be.

The easiest bit is that the masculine energy always responds to the feminine energy, always without fail. If the feminine energy is emitting confused energy, the masculine picks it up immediately and starts working with it.

Imagine if we all created constructive feminine energy and the masculine picked it up and there was a manifestation of systems that are good for us and our children? What if we stop fighting the system and start recreating it in unison? We are already doing it in our entrepreneurship projects; have you seen how women entrepreneurs are supported globally? Their energy was picked up alright!

Now for that political project that will work for women, are we ready to create it? The maternal health project? The end of conflict project? Do you want to create that?