How to forgive without being a doormat

Adapted from Babble

In a recent post at Science of Relationships, Sarah Stanton, a graduate student who is studying psychology, writes how, in general, forgiveness improves our health and well-being: reducing blood pressure and increasing life satisfaction and mood. But there’s a caveat. Forgiveness only seems to work if you’re forgiving someone who has made amends and tried to change. According to the research she cites, when we attempt to forgive a partner who hasn’t made amends, it erodes our self-respect.