The star couple, who have defied all norms—such as the belief that a man should be older, possess more wealth, and that the age gap shouldn’t be significant—have a 19-year age difference and embody a true definition of ‘us against the world.’
Musila celebrated her 53rd birthday this year, and her husband, Guardian, has described their journey of love as the ‘best experience ever’ to numerous reporters and a variety of YouTubers thirsty for clicks.
“I can’t believe it has already been 3 years. It has been the best part of my life. Loving you is the sweetest experience ever. You rock my world, Queen. Blessings on your birthday, @esther.musila; you are my everything,” Guardian wrote online.
From interviews, it’s revealed that Guardian set his eyes on the curvaceous Musila when she was out helping him build his music career.
Together, they created what they describe as a ‘paradise of love,’ igniting a spark in life and embarking on an extraordinary journey of peaceful nights together, great dates, drama, public attention, and couple-goals love.
“My life began when I met you, my love. It has been 3 years of bliss, and I thank you for coming. You brought a whole new meaning to my existence. I love you, my King,” Guardian narrated in a story written by the Standard.
Dazzling adventure of passion, chemistry, and intensity
Musila and Guardian Angel, from opposite corners of Kenya, sparked a dazzling adventure of passion, chemistry, and intensity.
But this kind of heartthrob love is not unique to Guardian and Musila alone. World over, many women are finding comfort in the arms of younger lovers and shifting the dimensions of relationships as we know them.
This trend, previously considered unconventional, is now a subject of fascination and exploration as it challenges traditional norms surrounding age gaps in relationships.
Musila is among women increasingly choosing to date and/or marry younger men, breaking the traditional norms of age gaps in relationships.
Those interviewed explained to The Nairobian that the stamina to screw hard, an open mind to try new intimacy adventures, and the energy to drill longer are some of the reasons why older women prefer younger men over older men, whom they believe are rigid and not interesting. Cross-generational marriages are becoming more common and accepted.
Experts who spoke to The Nairobian said that, baptised as Wamamaz, the driving force behind the surge in cross-generational marriages is the shifting landscape of gender roles.
They said that women have made significant strides in education, career opportunities, and social mobility and are less constrained by traditional gender expectations.
Loyalty and orgasms
Content Creator and Podcaster Olave Orawo said that more women are realising orgasms are not just for men, and women and are ready to have them just like their male counterparts.
“This newfound freedom allows older women to explore relationships with younger men without the fear of being labelled “cougars” or facing judgement from society. Younger men, on the other hand, are increasingly open to relationships with women who possess life experience and wisdom,” Orawo said.
She said the rise of cross-generational marriages signals a broader societal shift towards embracing the diversity of love and relationships, and cross-generational marriage is also gaining recognition and respect as a valid form of union.
“As long as there is love, trust, and respect between partners, age should not be a barrier to happiness. Do what makes you happy within the confines of the law,” she said.
Climax with Ciru, a sex therapist, told The Nairobian that more women are realising their rights and good things in life and that they are not afraid to chase them.
“Sex is amazing. Sex with the right man is amazing. These young boys are open and have the energy and time that older generations lack,” she said, adding, “They have the energy to touch the right parts and concentrate.”
Muriuki Kia, a sex therapist who hosts the Climax with Ciru podcast, said that Wamamaz want young men since they have power over them, and the young men are ready to explore and learn new sexual life experiences without being judged.
The benefits are immense
Ciru said that historically, relationships with significant age differences have often been stigmatized by communities, with the assumption that partners from different generations could not possibly share common interests or life goals.
“No one enjoys good sex like an old woman. And that is why she is ready to chase more orgasms and keep off the old, rigid generation. And these young boys are learning sex, and they want to experience good orgasms,” she said.
Ciru said that societal perceptions of love and compatibility have evolved to allow anyone to date whomever they want.
“In today’s world, where communication and shared values are emphasised, many couples are finding that age is not a determining factor in forming deep connections. Older women are more empowered than ever to prioritise compatibility and emotional fulfilment rather than adhering to rigid age-based stereotypes,” she said.
Orawo added that more women are realising orgasms are not just for men and women and are ready to have them just like their male counterparts.
She said that younger men love older women as well and that the older generation of women experienced marriage and romance on very functional terms, mostly for childbirth and homemaking.
She said that it is only later that they start to flirt with the idea of exploring what intimacy would be without service. She also said that there is also the aspect of feeling like ‘she still got it’ that builds their confidence and self-esteem.
Noting that a younger intimate partner would make anyone feel younger, regardless of gender.
Orawo said that another factor that contributes to the rise of cross-generational marriages is the convergence of interests among couples today.
“Older women marrying younger men frequently cite mutual passions and lifestyle compatibility as major factors in their decision to commit to one another. This convergence of interests has been facilitated by the digital age, where access to information and communities with shared interests is just a click away,” she said.
She said that there’s also the aspect of feeling like ‘she still got it’ that builds their confidence and self-esteem.
“A younger intimate partner would make anyone feel younger, regardless of gender,” Olave said.
While love knows no boundaries and age is just a number, this new wave of cross-generational unions prompts us to delve into the reasons why older women are increasingly choosing to tie the knot with younger partners. She said one driving force behind the surge in cross-generational marriages is the shifting landscape of gender roles.
“As women have made significant strides in education, career opportunities, and social mobility, they are less constrained by traditional gender expectations. This newfound freedom allows older women to explore relationships with younger men without the fear of being labelled “cougars” or facing judgement from society,” Orawo said, adding, “Younger men, on the other hand, are increasingly open to relationships with women who possess life experience and wisdom.”
Orawo said couples today often bond over shared hobbies, interests, and life experiences, regardless of their age.
Older women marrying younger men frequently cite mutual passions and lifestyle compatibility as major factors in their decision to commit to one another. This convergence of interests has been facilitated by the digital age, where access to information and communities with shared interests is just a click away.
Diversity of love and relationships.
“Younger men love older women as well. The older generation of women experienced marriage and romance in very functional terms. Mostly for childbirth and homemaking. It is only later that they start to flirt with the idea of exploring what intimacy would be without service,” Olave said.
The rise of cross-generational marriages signals a broader societal shift towards embracing the diversity of love and relationships.
Just as same-sex marriages and intercultural unions have gradually become more accepted, age-gap relationships are now gaining recognition as valid expressions of love.
This trend challenges preconceived notions of who can form meaningful partnerships, encouraging a more inclusive perspective on the dynamics of romantic relationships.
Olave said that women are now loving power plays and being in control.
“Finance plays a major role in power dynamics. Older women having puppeteering money actually experience what I personally call the ‘Thanos Effect’. I snap my fingers, and you appear or disappear. This is the basis of the entire ‘Ben 10’ dynamic,” she said.
She added that old women with money are so demanding and manipulative.
“The younger man in this dynamic, especially in it for money, might feel burned out. The woman might have too many questions, including sexual ones,” she said.
She said, judging from her observation of people she knows personally, that men who gravitate towards older romantic partners are actually very close to their maternal carers.