I have worked in a desolate village in Sudan. I empathised with the choices married people settled for. There were phone calls from the incessantly complaining wives who scarcely saw the need of money substituting the comforting arms of human company

At Westgate, before we knew who was behind, I heard friend joke that the place should be robbed because it belongs to the rich who might not feel the squeeze

Few men would want to marry a barmaid. They claim they are normal women just like the rest, but men always approach them with a ‘touch and go’ mentality. Tired of mistreatment and discrimination, barmaids have spoken their minds, writes SILAS NYANCHWANI and TONY MALESI.

The womenfolk must find creative ways of dealing with their men. If you want to use the ‘in-your-face’ approach, a man has only two alternatives; either he will slap you or walk away. Men need only three things: food, sex and silence.

While cohabiting makes people complacent and lazy, often cohabitation is the only option that individuals have. And it is healthy. It encourages monogamy, sometimes faithfulness. And if individuals click well, marriage is the end result

Most women panic once their biological clock begins ticking thus use hook and crook to get married. When they are not tricking their men with pregnancies — to marry them, they are coning their way into come-we-stay arrangements, and before men discover it, it’s too little too late to disentangle themselves out of the unplanned marriages. However, some men have resorted to dodgy and crafty ways of smoking out such women, writes SILAS NYANCHWANI.

Every once in a while I have had women grab me from where I am seated and subject me to humiliating ‘socket-dancing’ or an uncalled for lap-dance. Most men have admitted such moments leave them baffled.