I have lost relationships because I didn’t want children

Abigail Arunga made the decision not to have children over a decade ago (Photo courtesy)

I am child-free and loving it. Please stop telling me I am unhappy. Society romanticises motherhood so that by the time a woman has come to her own, she may not know how to separate motherhood from her womanhood.

So they end up viewing childless women as less than for choosing to live child-free.  At about 18, I wanted nine kids. By the time I got to 19, I wanted none.