Never forgive a man for standing you up!

 Never forgive a man for standing you up

A few years ago, I went through one of the most humiliating experiences in dating; I got stood up. I had met *James a few days earlier through a mutual friend and I instantly took a liking to him.

He had a great sense of humour and generally seemed like a decent guy. So, when he suggested we grab a cup of coffee a few days later I was over the moon. I was raring to go! I went and got a manicure and got a new hairstyle. On that fateful day, I chose my outfit with care.

A satin drape blouse with a plunging neckline paired with a black faux leather miniskirt. I slipped on my stiletto heels and was ready to go. I looked stunning.

Before I left the house, I texted James to let him know I was on my way. I didn’t get a reply but I didn’t think much of it. I reckoned he was probably driving and couldn’t text back. Being a stickler for time, I arrived at the café five minutes early and James wasn’t there.

I texted him again to let him know I had arrived then took a seat and waited. Ten minutes went buy and I still had not heard from him. I ordered a milkshake. Thirty minutes went by and still no word from him so I decided to call him. The call went through but there was no answer.

 I stared expectantly at the door hoping to see him walking in and my spirits rose every time someone walked in only to be crushed again when I realized it wasn’t him.

Forty minutes passed and there was still no sign of James. By now, all sorts of crazy scenarios were playing out in my head. Maybe he had gotten into a freak accident. Maybe he had died.

Maybe an emergency had come up and he had lost my number so he couldn’t reach me to let me know. When on hour passed and he was still a no-show, it dawned on me that I had been stood up. I felt awful. I felt I must have been really ugly for him to stand me up like that.

 I wasn’t even worth a quick text to let me know he wasn’t going to make it. I felt like the ultimate loser! I never heard from him. Up to this day I don’t know why he stood me up.

Getting stood up is mortifying but you should never let it put you down. It is his loss, not yours and it is not a reflection of who you are. Do not call him repeatedly or leave him multiple messages. Do not go home and cry either. You are already dressed up, why not take yourself out and have fun? You can also call a friend or two and do something fun together.

If your flake ever turns up don’t give him the time of day unless he has a really good excuse backed up by facts, figures, eyewitnesses and evidence. Barring an emergency, you should never forgive a man for standing you up. Ever!