My husband is 42, has a good job but won’t invest

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We are both 42 and live in a rented house in a nice neighborhood. We studied together for both our undergraduate and post-graduate degrees and were blessed with good jobs. However, we spend most of our money to pay rent and maintain a standard of living that I feel is too high for us. We have no investments (not even a small plot) and we survive mostly on credit cards. Whenever I bring up the issue of investing in land or houses he always has reasons why it is the wrong time to buy anything. If I try to buy on my own, he says that I want to leave him and many other nasty things. He has not even built a house for himself at home and it is always shameful having to sleep in his mother’s house when we go visiting them. How can I get my husband to at least think about investing for the security of our family? He is too obsessed with this lifestyle of big cars and living in nice apartments.{Phyllis}

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