Kenyan celebrities, young men reveal why they prefer sugar mummies to younger women

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According to a gossip story we ran a few weeks ago, a group calling itself Nairobi Cougar Lounge, a private members club based in Lavington is making a shocking but lucrative offer to young men with a big sexual appetite.

“We have started this new experience for all young Kenyan men who would love to get satisfied and get paid....What we want is very simple. We invite you to spend some quality time with women at our private club in Lavington. We pay you to satisfy their deep intimate desires at Sh15,000 - Sh20,000 per day depending on their appetite,” the online post read.

Apparently, according to the post, the club hosts women above 40, blacks and whites, who insist that any young man visiting must have energy and great skills to satisfy them because most of them are lonely.

“Simply, we are mature women who find deep intimate pleasure and satisfaction in young energetic men, or we just sleep with young guys for fun...” the post specified.

Even before the brazen shocker of their news sunk in, another group of rich women in Nakuru who prey on male university students for sex declared its presence.

It is a group of seven married women (called Divas) who look out mostly for boys aged between 20 and 30 before pitching tent with them in one of the serviced apartments in the leafy Milimani estate.

According to reports, they are loaded women with time and money to burn in return for sex. According to one of the women, they decided to go for young guys as their husbands were not performing their conjugal duties well.

In her own words, they organise weekend outings with the young men at least twice a month under the guise of meeting for their chama functions.

Dating older women, the social phenomenon jokingly described as the ‘Kazi kwa vijana initiative’, is becoming a mainstream craze for some young Kenyan men.

Pulse asked some of these young men, aged between 18 – 30 years old, why they prefer to date older women over their younger counterparts.

“Young ladies expect a lot and men our age do not have the financial resources to match up with their expectations,” explains one man, a university student.

“They want good liquor, gifts and guys who drive. Older women have less demands,” he adds.

“I am a hustler, other than sex, the older ladies only want little company and comfort,” reveals another respondent, who declined to be named.

He explains that the benefits are ideal, saying that being broke is not an option.

“We are given phones, rent money, household stuff and clothes. Most of us are students, so without them we would be broke,” he explains. A common view among these men is that since young women date older men, it is only fair if they too go for older women.

What is seemingly an emerging male ‘escort’ service is only the tip of the iceberg; below the surface young men are seeking relationships with older women. This begs the question: Is it for love or for financial benefit?

The trend extends also to Kenyan celebrities who are being ‘kept’ by wealthy older women, so that they can maintain an exclusive lifestyle where flashy cars, lavish mansions and a never-ending cash flow is a must.

Rojo Mo, a Mombasa-based singer recently disclosed to Pulse that he was dating a Dutch woman who was the same age as his mother. He swore that he was in love, and was not with her for money.

“It was love at first sight. The fact that I’m dating an older woman does not mean I’m a gold-digger,” Rojo told Pulse.

However, he did not deny that the woman was bankrolling his projects and maintaining his extravagant lifestyle.

Their relationship has since fizzled out. Rojo told Pulse that it was not about the money and that his preference was not restricted to older women.

He explained that many young men in Mombasa are in relationships with older women, with some men in it for the money.

“Mombasa is a tourist town, so it is common to find lonely older women from Europe looking for the company of young guys,” he added.

Recently, after declaring his sexual innocence, Mombasa showbiz hunk Eric Omtere was tracked down by a wealthy cougar who vowed that she would settle for nothing other than to have him for herself.

The popular, rich mama who owns property in Nyali Beach, besides other investments in Mtwapa, trapped the events’ organiser in her beach house and promised him the world if he succumbed to her romantic thirst.

“She said she had been stalking me for two months and I was shocked when she took bundles of dollars out of her safe and offered them to me, saying all she wanted me to do was to accept her as my wife,” Eric told Pulse adding that he was not interested in sleeping with old mamas.

“Guys who sleep with sugar mammies are simply lazy. They want to just sit there and get cheap money for sex. That is just evil,” Omtere told Pulse.