It is very easy to cheat while in campus relationships

Campus relationships are an investment, a belief in two people falling together in love and mutual understanding and deciding to lock out everyone else in their life and make it be just about them.

I do believe that it is possible for Tom and Njeri to have a perfectly healthy relationship in campus. Despite all that hullaballoo that men in campus are as faithful as a hyena guarding carcass, there is always an exception.

It does not mean that they are way better, but I believe that if you want something to work, it will. It’s all a state of the mind, and once you decide that Nduta, Adhiambo, Nekesa or Chebet is the one I want to be with, and make a conscious effort in your heart to follow it through, then nothing on this earth can stop that relationship from working. Ask former US President Franklin D. Roosevelt, he had one of history’s most heinous first ladies’, Eleanor Roosevelt. Most Americans called her ugly, but Franklin loved her, and he had purposed to stay with her. For better for worse. For good for bad, and in beauty and not so therein. Yes, love is blind.

There is nothing easier than cheating in campus. After all, they are all at your disposal, and besides, forbidden fruit tastes sweetest. But it takes a real man, and/or woman for that matter to remain faithful. Everybody wants the easy way out, but why not take the high road and invest in your relationship. Why don’t you give it all your all and silence the critics that claim that as Shakespeare died, so did love. Personally I’d rather fight for this one love, than scatter my heart all over proposing undying love to every Edith, Jane and Mary that looks my way. Easy come..?

I have been dating this lady for one and a half years now, and there’s not a single day that I have regretted meeting her. Yes there have been temptations to cheat, there have been times I just don’t feel like seeing her and there are times I wish I had a reason as to why I could cheat on her but there isn’t! I am practically ready to die for her, and to an extent, I am sure I would fight for her. No, I’d beat you up if you mess around with her.

I may be carrying the world’s problems but with her, I feel at peace with even my sworn enemies.

It is all about the commitment, the trust and the respect you have for that one person that you decide to throw all it in, and surrender yourself to all her charms, wit and desires. You decide that from then on, you will dine with everyone, but your heart and love, you will save for her. And because campus is only a transitional period to adult responsibilities, you start laying foundations for your family with that one person, knowing that soon, the society will not only judge you but also condemn you if you fall below the expectations. And the society is harsh.

There is nothing wrong with having a relationship in campus. As long as you remember that there is much more to life than raving, clubbing, partying, and shopping. Then you go to class.

And at the end of the day, you visit her room, kiss her goodnight and take a walk counting stars as you plan your future. After all, you are now a real man.

Eugene Kelvin Wanjiku is a student at Moi University Eldoret.