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My girlfriend has been texting her ex throughout our relationship

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My girlfriend has been texting her ex throughout our relationship

Dear Coleen

I’ve been going out with my girlfriend for about two years. I’m 23, she’s 22 and I love her a lot.

At the start of our relationship, her ex-boyfriend kept ringing her and saying he’d made a mistake by dumping her and that he wanted her back.

At first I didn’t take much notice, as she assured me it meant nothing to her, but about a month ago I discovered they had been texting throughout our relationship, signing off with kisses.

I asked her if she’d received texts from him and she always denied it, so I feel really hurt that she lied to me for so long.

Now I don’t know what to think because I’ve had such good times with this girl and I get along with all her family too.

But now I feel like she doesn’t care about me at all.

What should I do? She assured me it won’t happen again, but for her to lie so blatantly surely shows how little respect she has for me.

Coleen says

Listen, being lied to is just awful and unfortunately it can take a long time to get the trust back.

It’s down to her, really. She’s been caught out and she needs to prove to you that there was nothing in these texts and promise that she won’t hide anything from you again.

If your relationship is good apart from what’s happened over the texts and she is genuinely sorry, then give her another chance.

But you both have to accept that it will take time to get that trust back.

And let her know that if you find out she’s been lying again, there are no second chances.

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