My boyfriend is very ugly and poor, is he capable of cheating on me?

My boyfriend never remembers our anniversaries, but last week he gave me a present and when I asked why, he said that he just “wanted to make me happy”.

Then he drove me to a friend’s house and offered to pick me up later. That night, my mum called and said he’d gone to visit her and gave her a pot plant. He also asked her if she wanted him to take her shopping.

I’m totally confused. I don’t think he can be cheating on me because he’s ugly, poor and rude, and I know the passwords to all of his social media accounts.

I don’t know what to do.

I don’t want to refuse his kindness, but he’s acting strange.

Coleen says

Well, I guess what you’re asking me is if he could be cheating and is doing these nice things to alleviate his guilt?

However, if you put him down in person the way you have in this letter, I wouldn’t blame him for looking elsewhere for love and affection! Ugly, poor and rude?

You’re going out with him, so he must have something going for him, surely?

Be honest with yourself – do you make him feel like he’s all of those things?

I can’t say why he’s suddenly being more attentive. Maybe he doesn’t want to lose you, so is starting to make more of an effort.

But I think your attitude sucks. If you’re really concerned about your relationship, ask him why he’s changed. And maybe start being a bit kinder yourself!