Would you adopt your hubby's name?

Would you adopt your husband's last name officially after you get married? Surprisingly, most women I have talked to say they would not and their reasons are pathetic.

They say the farthest they can go with this name adoption thing is social media where the 'edit' option is a click away! If push comes to shove, their names will change in a second.

Last weekend, I attended a wedding committee meeting of a friend to a friend who has vowed never to adopt her husband's name even after she walks down the aisle.

I was at the meeting, not to give any ideas or make any pledges but to catch a glimpse at this woman who fears her husband's name like plague.

All through the meeting, my sexy legs itched with anxiety. I really wanted to approach her and create a quick rapport that would allow me to ask her about her decision. It did not take long, I am a talented 'rapport creator'; immediately the meeting ended, I approached her and posed the question.

Her answer, "Adopt his name officially? Never ever, his name will not feature in any of my official documents. That can give me one hell of a time if at all we part ways in future"

I had planned not to get shocked at her answer but I did. Although I had heard of that response from many other married women, it shocked me how she said it with so much confidence and pride as if it was some award-winning decision. Why exactly do people get into marriage these days? Why make the vow 'For better for worse' if divorce is running through your mind?

The other day, my neighbour had the golden opportunity of being proposed to, she said yes. Later on, as she was telling me all about the proposal, she confessed that the reason she said yes was because our Constitution has a provision for divorce.

She also made it clear that she was not going to officially adopt her husband's name because it would take forever to make changes in case they divorced. She said she would maintain her father's name till death, claiming that her father has been her role model since birth.

So now we are using our role model's names? In that case, I should be Beryl Wanga Green. Don't ask me who Green is, just know that he is and has been my role model.

Women, it's only fair to officially adopt your husband's names. Some women refuse to adopt the names and once they realise they are not their husband's next of kin at the bank or at work, they start whining and thumping their chests, "But I am his wife."

God knew me too well, he did not make me a man; if He had and my wife had refused to adopt my name because of silly reasons, then I would as well act silly. After all, two can play that game.

Getting into a marriage because there is an option of divorce is like getting into a house because there is a back door to escape when things get hot. When you say 'For better, for worse', there is no option of divorce. So adopt that name and be proud of it. Let divorce come because it was inevitable, not because it was anticipated