What does my submission to God have to do with my wife's submission?
Before I answer, do you think God is pleased by how you treat your wife?
DAD: How are things between you and your wife?
SON: Tough, she is such a difficult woman. I told her I want a submissive wife when we were courting, she is not submissive.
DAD: Where did you get the idea that a wife ought to be submissive?
SON: Come on dad! Isn't that obvious? From the Bible. Mom and you took me to Sunday School, remember?
DAD: Now that you have mentioned the Bible, have you submitted to God?
SON: This is not about me, this about my wife who doesn't submit.
DAD: This has everything to do with you, have you submitted to God? How is your relationship with God?
SON: Me and God are good…
DAD: Are you really good?
SON: I can't lie. Not really. I have drifted far from God.
DAD: So God loves you perfectly but you don't submit to God, yet you love your wife imperfectly and are angry that you feel she doesn't submit to you?
SON: What does my submission to God have to do with my wife's submission?
DAD: Before I answer, do you think God is pleased by how you treat your wife?
SON: No one is perfect.
DAD: I didn't ask if you were perfect, I just asked if God is pleased?
SON: To be honest, no! I shout at her, I demean her, I order her around, I disrespect her even in public. But she makes me mad when she does not submit.
DAD: You cannot force a woman to submit. When you submit to God, God will work on you and you will become a loving, caring, gentle, inspiring husband. Once you become that husband, your wife will find it natural to submit to you because her submission is led by your submission to God. When you don't submit to God, you can easily become self centred, proud, insensitive and domineering. This might turn your wife from being submissive to protective, where she feels a need to protect herself from you. She is not supposed to submit to mistreatment. A loved up woman submits to love.
SON: I never saw it that way.
DAD: I didn't see it that way until many years in marriage to your mother. Learn this truth early, it will save you and your wife a lot of stress. God wants to give you a peaceful marriage, submit to God.
SON: I will. I will submit to God. Before I ask if my wife submits to me, I will ask myself if I have submitted to God.
© Dayan Masinde
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