Ladies, there is a difference between a lazy man and a man whose time hasn't come

Some days ago, I had a talk with some men about women and money. They talked about how men go into debt just to please women. How men borrow from banks, friends, mobile loan apps just to project a certain lifestyle to attract or keep a woman and compete with fellow men.

Some of these men couldn't keep up with this lifestyle. They were frustrated by ladies who because they live in a good house belonging to their parents, look down upon a man who lives in a bed sitter or a one bedroomed house yet that bed sitter or that one bedroom belongs to the man, not the parents. He has worked hard to be the man he is and is heading to greatness and all he needs is a woman who will know him for who he is and walk with him. These men, like many men, lamented how many ladies don't appreciate the work that an individual man who is on the path to growth is putting.

These men have been dumped by women because they can't give them a certain lifestyle not possible at the present, or have dumped women who didn't appreciate effort or who all they see in a man is money.

Some of these men eventually did get successful and wealthy; suddenly, the women who dumped them are trying to get friendly. We have seen it a number of times how some people dump and reject someone for being down, only to regret or try their luck again when the person they dumped gets up.

Ladies, you need to know that there is a difference between a lazy man and a man whose time has not yet come.

Don't get me wrong, there are lazy men who just bum, do nothing, have no vision, live off women's money, drink all the money they have and are lost. But there are also men of vision who try knocking on doors that remain closed for now, who take risks, who work hard but they don't look successful but one day they will be, who tarmack wearing their only suit and official shoes but their opportunity is coming. There are men with character, goals, determination, who sleep less as they labour but their breakthrough just hasn't come but it will. There are men who are on their destination to not just wealth, but riches in character and love; don't miss out on a good man just because you have money on your mind.

Ladies, remember you carry favour. A man must be in need for him to need your favour. Your coming to his life will usher in growth in him, in his purpose, his character, his wealth, his focus in life and his love; he needs you. If only you knew just how much a woman's love motivates a man. The undying love of a woman has made men find healing, find themselves, paint the most amazing paintings, sing the most incredible songs, build empires, conquer battles. Your love motivates him.

To the wives, it hurts when the wife who ought to bring favour is the man's greatest opponent and attacker. It hurts when you put your husband down because of money. It hurts when he feels you don't appreciate his growth and effort. If you want your family to go far, be his ally. A husband loves to make the wife who believes in him proud.

© Dayan Masinde

In my new book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I talk about the power of a woman, women and money and in depth about the favour she carries.

In my other new book, MANHOOD SERIES, I talk about men and money, the identity of a man that has nothing to do with money, growing holistically as a man and staying faithful to the woman who brings you favour.

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