Men, stop acting like you've never seen breasts or butts

Immature men are the ones who keep chasing after ever woman who looks hot.

Immature men are never satisfied, their eyes linger around, any woman will pass them and they ogle, they are to be found on the Facebook photos of beautiful women commenting suggestively, they flood inboxes of women with "Can I have your number?", "My penis is nine inches long", "Are you a virgin?", "Can we meet, my wife won't know", "Can I can see you at your house"?

These immature men are the ones who cheat on their women/wives, they flirt. They are always looking for the next big butt, the next thick thighs, the next sexy photo to jump on with lustful comments, their phones are full of videos and pictures of random women just to analyze the female bodies, at work they hit on any woman, in the streets they can touch or rub themselves on an innocent woman. If there is a butt next to them they must touch it, or register the memory of the butt in their mind so that at home they masturbate to it. They do this yet right next to them is the woman/wife they claim to love.

Immature ladies exist too; their eyes are led by lust, they are chasing after a sexual high no matter where they get it. These are the unfaithful women, they get lured by men who tell them "I can sex you better than your husband". They send nude pictures of themselves to any man who can fire up the honey pot between their legs, they jump from one man to another, they lie, they cheat, they scheme just so that they can see and get a penis. There greatest CV is "I am great in bed"

But when a man is grown, he realizes that breasts are just breasts, a butt is just a butt, a vagina is just a vagina; it is the woman that those body parts belong to that make them special. They are just flesh. There are billions of butts, breasts, vaginas in the world; but it is the one that belongs to his woman that is special and that he wants. He knows out there will always be a woman who has firmer breasts, curvier hips, a bigger butt than his woman but he is too grown to compare women's bodies because he has found the woman he needs, loves and is building an empire with.

When a woman is grown, she realizes that the penis comes in many shapes, forms and sizes; it is the man that the penis belongs to that matters. For her, she wants more than an orgasm or a rubbing inside her vagina, she wants depth, she needs love, she needs something that lasts a lifetime. She will not let the penis of a reckless man ruin the relationship/marriage she has with the man who truly loves her.

When you mature, you don't go around comparing sexual performances because there is more to life than sex; if you compare, you will always be curious thinking there is more out there; if you compare, you will be never be satisfied with your spouse no matter how great he/she is in loving you and in love making.

Stop chasing after body parts. You are not a horny animal, you are a grown person. Even the sexual performance with your spouse will vary each time you two make love. Last night it might have lasted for ten minutes and you went one round, yesterday you might not have made love, tomorrow the love making might last twenty minutes with two rounds.

The important thing is what happens after the orgasm. Do not be misled by the chase of an orgasm, many have messed up sexually. Don't be an adult with an adult sexual organ who acts like a child.

Even in single-hood, when you're mature, you don't act like you are a slave to nipples, clit, penis and vagina - any that you can find you chase and get. When you're mature you know that sex is not a must.

When you are grown you outgrow sex and desire love making. Sex requires only two horny people; but making love making requires a grown man and woman giving their all to each other, who know each other inside out, whose love is more than sexual, who'll be there not just in that horny moment but for life- your spouse.

© Dayan Masinde