IS DR.AMINA MOHAMMED QUALIFIED FOR THE POSITION OF AFRICAN UNION CHAIR?

We all know that sex cements most marriages. Many couples deny getting married for sex. Truth be told, sex forms an integral part of marriage.

Briefly, I am going to look at the things that make most married men avoid sex.

Number one on the list is that some people reserve the best ‘shot’ to someone special to them outside marriage.

At times, partners get home exhausted after an intense intimate session with other persons out of the marriage and what they do is snore themselves silly beside their wives.

In some instances, some people will stop having sex with their partners because their ‘figure’ has changed. I have heard some men complain that their wife has overgrown like a hippopotamus and she cannot make the best ‘goalkeeper’.

The same happens with women, they complain that their husbands have grown very big tummies and they are no longer attracted to them.

Some openly say that they better go for the best ‘strikers’. That is the time when the gardener or the watchman outsmarts the husband.

You will also find that the wife has neglected herself forcing her husband to go after the maid.

Midlife crisis also affects most relationships and reduces the frequency of intimacy.

There are numerous instances where men abandon their families to marry second wives and the reasons they give don’t add up. They claim to want another person to rejuvenate and spice up their sexual life.

In other cases, women deny men sex just as a way of sabotage. This is non-verbal communication. Maybe they just want their husbands to address their issues. However, this method at the end of the day works against them. Most of the time men end up quenching their thirst with someone else.

Stress is also a contributing factor to reduced sexual activity amongst most married couples. Most people when going through a difficult time cannot think about sex. Sex for all humans begins at the brain and when this is affected, intimacy will not be at its optimum to help in ejaculation.

The living environment that couples find themselves in will also be a contributing factor. Can you imagine a situation where you stay with your kids in a single room or just under one roof and they are all grownups? Most couples will compromise their sex lives to avoid embarrassment.

FGM also contributes as it lowers libido in women. The woman doesn’t enjoy sex and rather feels pain or numb during intercourse.

In other instances, most men will lack interest in sex when they have a deal that is at the negotiation stage or when they are anxious about a deal that is about to bring in money. Everything else tends to come to a halt.

These are just but a few things that will help you understand your partner now or in the future.