Snooping on your lover is a waste of time and energy

It is enough to have grown up in a Kenyan household where our parents held on tightly to the reigns and rarely allowed us to make any decisions of our own. They had a hand in almost all decisions in our lives, from life changing choices like what courses we took in college to trivial matters like what we ate and wore. They literally held us on tight leash, deciding who was good enough to be our friends and banishing any men who appeared too red eyed or with funny hairstyles from our homes.