Worried about wife’s HIV status

By Nyambura Maina

After seven years of marriage and with three children, my worst fears have come true. I have discovered that my wife is HIV positive. She had been sick on many occasions and I had noticed she was growing thinner. We had gone to see a doctor who was preparing her to undergo an operation. He requested an HIV test for her, we agreed and it was done. I refused to believe my ears when I was told the results were positive. However, after several tests in different places, my children and I have tested negative. Two years later, I am learning how to live with my wife’s status. It has been difficult because I am worried that one day I may contract the virus if the condom breaks. I have developed high blood pressure and the doctor thinks I should avoid situations that can cause stress. Should I abandon sex with my wife?