I’d love to think it takes a lot to decide to be gay. I don’t think you just wake up and decide; you launch a commission of inquiry comprising the three people in you. That’s when you weigh repercussions and the merits, thereafter make a sound decision. Gayness isn’t just something you stumble upon, like a slipped and fell into a gay trap. No, it takes courage, like someone strapping himself with explosives with the hope that he’ll find virgins somewhere in the afterlife.
You go against the norm, against social beliefs and values and most importantly against African ideals, so much so that leaders consider homosexuality to a kind of treason. And the ridicule, that comes with! How do you decide that you are going to live with it, dragging your parents, your family and everybody who knows you?