How fake millionaires con women

By Shirley Genga

Dating these days is no easy endeavour; just ask any young, educated and successful woman.

She will definitely provide you with a long list of stories about the many trials and tribulations she has gone through in the name of love.

Dating is riddled with many challenges, with finances topping the list because let’s face it: No woman wants to be with a man who can’t provide for her.

DNA

Men (who have no money) like to act defensive and go as far as calling women who choose a man with money over a man who has no money as a vain gold digger. But the truth of the matter is, a woman will always look out for herself and her future children. It is embedded in every woman’s DNA to search out for the man who will give her and her future generation the most secure future possible.

While all the above is fine and dandy, this desire of women to only date financially stable men has given rise to a group of young men I like to call Nairobi’s masufferer millionaires. They walk the dating scene claiming to be what they are not.

I am not proud of it, but I happened to be suckered by one of these types. A friend of mine hooked me up with a friend of a friend. At our first meeting, he seemed to be the perfect dream man. He claimed to be a successful banker.

For the two weeks we dated, he took me to the finest restaurants and drove me around town in his posh car. On our second week ‘anniversary’, I was invited to his posh two-bedroom apartment in Lavington where dinner was cooked for me by his house help.

Fraud

Everything was going perfectly until I struck a conversation with his house help, who innocently informed me that he shared the apartment with five other friends.

That is when the bubble burst and my eyes were opened. Later, I found out that the car in which he drove me around was not his own but a rental, which he often hired, to impress women. My so-called wealthy potential was nothing but a fraud.

I know they say that one should fake it until they make it, but living beyond one’s means is just downright stupid in my book. Of course I dumped him, not because he had no money but because he was a fraud.

When I asked around, I found out that the dating scene today is jammed up with men who talk big, drive nice cars, live in uptown locations and dress like they have money yet they are living in serious debt.

Girls, be warned. If you don’t what to marry a man you think is financially stable and then end up with a man who is a masufferer, you better open your eyes. Make sure you know exactly what it is your man does.

Do not be content with “nachapa deals”. What nonsense is that anyway?