Once bitten: Men would rather die than remarry after divorce

Divorce doesn’t happen in a day. It’s usually a long, painful process that comes with emotional and financial trauma, self-doubt, disagreements and psychological breakdown. It is not something that one would wish for, or walk out of smiling and clapping. You see, these are people who were once deeply madly in love and now they’re total strangers, to the point of agreeing to part ways for good. 

I’m sure if we did a comparison of which gender gets affected most by divorce, we would conclude that men take longer to ‘heal’ from the separation, especially if kids are involved. Men rarely talk about their lives and what they go through, and it is their inability to open up and share their failures, worries, and pain from divorce that makes it harder for their hearts to heal. Since they don’t reach out for support when their families get shattered, their chances of suffering from helplessness, stress and depression increase. They will meet their boys out for gym, nyama choma and a drink, talk about football, politics and who owns the latest machine in town, but won’t open up on their ailing mental health.