Obsessing about why someone broke up with you or why it didn’t work out is an exercise in futility

Let’s talk about the purported magical antidote for the pain of heartbreak; closure. Sometimes after a particularly nasty breakup, we feel we can’t let go until we get some sense of closure. We long for one last meeting with the ex to try and understand why things didn’t work out. In theory, the idea behind closure is that either by confronting the issues that ended the relationship or having a final airing of grievances, you will finally be able to close the door on that past relationship and move on. Here is the bitter truth; there is no such thing as closure. It is a myth, an illusion. You will never get closure with your ex.