How will it be without my leg?

Dear Simon,

I am 25, just cleared campus and thought I had everything going for me until I was told my leg would have to be amputated from the knee downwards. I had been feeling a slight pain on my little toe and when I went to hospital, it was established that it would have to be amputated. When I sought a second opinion, the doctor said they would need to amputate from the ankle. When I sought a third opinion, I was told it would be cut from the knee downwards. I think I am done with this life. Can’t imagine living without a leg. I urgently need your help.  Please advise…
{Jack}

Simon says

Hi Jack, it is unfortunate that your leg has to be amputated. On one hand, it is hard that it went from your little toe to the leg but if you look closely, there is no telling what would have happened if it spread to other parts of your body. It could have been worse and you have a lot to be grateful for — you can still walk, man. Not everyone gets that lucky. You still have a full life ahead of you. It may not be working out exactly as you planned, but at least you can make it work out albeit under different plans.

The first step is to change those feelings of bitterness to thoughts of gratitude and hope. You say you cannot imagine living without a leg; I encourage you to start planning to live a good life with one leg. Always remember there are people going through worse situations and that you are not alone. Whenever you feel down and low, know that you are not alone. Talk to someone (including me) and I emphasise on the importance of developing an attitude of gratitude.

Lastly, I share with you a fundamental truth in this life: For every weakness or shortcoming you have, God gives you corresponding strengths. You may not have one leg, but you will find that with determination and focus, God will lead you to opportunities where you may not need a leg or legs to excel. God is always looking out for our well-being and he ensures that we are all equal in one way or the other. It is all in your mind.

Your Say to Jack,

 I read your story and my heart goes out to you. This mainly because I have children your age and I can see that they are enthusiastic about planning for their future. However, I think you should be grateful that you still have a chance to pursue your dreams. With an amputation from the knee downwards, you can wear?prosthesis?and live a normal life, doing everything two-legged people can do. Consider yourself lucky, as it could have been worse. It is obvious you are thinking of your relationships as well, but the people who really love you and matter in your life, will be around for better or for worse. Therefore, don’t waste time contemplating, as it could worsen. Go ahead and get the surgery, heal and continue?actualising?your dreams. I wish you all the best.

{Kezia Ominde}

Jack, it is important to first accept your situation. You shouldn’t be ashamed of the outcome. Consult several physicians to avoid mistakes, but never lose hope.?

{Norman Kemboi, Maseno University}

Our paralympics team just came back from London with a commendable collection of medals. Each of the team members has one or more missing body parts. Would we be celebrating them had they given up when they realised they were faced with a physical disability? There is more to life than having all your body parts intact. Don’t give up.

{David Oriedi, Nairobi}

I empathise with you Jack. Sometimes life brings unexpected challenges, and God knows why He allowed this to happen. Trust in Him and be happy.

{Makari Elly, Butere}

Jack, life is more enjoyable when you are free of regrets. Just accept the new reality and move on with your life.

{Ken Odeny, Kisumu}