Help this lady: After 10 years together I just don’t think I’m in love with my husband any more

 

I no longer love my husband

I really don’t want to hurt him and everyone I speak to - family and friends - think I should stick with it and that any problems we have can be fixed.

I just don’t know what to do about my marriage.

I’ve been with my husband for 10 years and we have been married for five of those.

I’m going to be 30 this year and we have a three-year-old child and six-month-old baby.

The problem is, I just don’t think I’m in love with him any more.

Any issues we had have been sorted – we talked about me wanting to leave and, as a result, he made loads of changes, but I just feel it’s made no difference.

Too little, too late.

We get on, he’s a good guy and we still have sex, but I just feel numb – I have no feeling towards him at all.

I have ruled out any kind of depression, as every other area of my life is good.

I really don’t want to hurt him and everyone I speak to (family and friends) think I should stick with it and that any problems we have can be fixed.

I have no money to rent anywhere to live and his family live far away so he can’t leave either in order to give us some space.

I don’t want to regret anything or hurt anyone, but I can’t help feeling that if he had an affair I’d have a reason to leave.

I know I’m a horrible person.

Please help.