Why being single for too long is unhealthy for you
Living
By
Esther Muchene
| Aug 28, 2022
The idea of being happily single in these modern times is very common but are you really happy? Years ago people would get married very early and that has changed a lot since then.
But with what is happening with many marriages, we have realized it's better to be single than to be miserably married. At the same time, it is actually possible to be out of the dating game for way too long.
Having a season of single-hood isn't a bad thing but it can start to affect you if you overextend it. So let's look at some of the disadvantages you might experience if you wait too long.
You lose your confidence
Dating around and meeting new people is a fun experience when you have your confidence intact. That confidence is built over time when you learn how to interact with different people and experience a couple of rejections.
But, if you've been out the game for years, you really don't know how things have changed. It's almost like your dating muscles have withered which will affect your self-confidence and your ability to cope when things don't work out.
It breeds loneliness
Did you know that you can be surrounded by many people and still feel lonely? It happens to many singles because something inside them longs for that one best friend and partner who they can experience life with.
You will have moments where you get to enjoy other people's company but reality will start kicking in when you have to go back home alone.
This long term loneliness can trigger other problems like overeating, alcoholism, over exercising and other harmful habits to temporarily fill the void.
Your personality becomes more rigid
When you're single for a long time you get used to your habits and attitudes. Slowly you adopt this personality that is great for a thriving career and other areas of your life but not romantic relationships.
A romantic relationship needs a lot of collaboration and that side of you becomes suppressed. You become less fun and you're more likely to only focus on what you want which will further prevent you from finding someone suitable.
You might collect more baggage
Being single doesn't automatically mean that you're intentionally working on yourself and preparing for your future partner. For many singles this is a time of partying, sleeping around and situationships.
If you live like this for a long time you collect a lot of emotional issues along the way. You might become incapable of pair bonding which can lead to a life of brokenness.
To add to that, the more bodies you collect, the undesirable you become to the potential partner you would want to be with.
It can affect you physically
Relationships aren't just a matter of romance and bliss. It's a survival thing because some studies confirm married couples have a lesser risk of developing heart disease as compared to their single counterparts and not just that, they recover faster from illness.
The list doesn't end there because married couples experience less stress compared to singles. This just shows that choosing to ignore your dating life for a long time can in fact have a negative impact on your physical health in the long run.