Hi Chris,
I’ve noticed that I start behaving differently around a guy I’m crushing on. Is that real, or am I just nervous or a bit hyper? Or is it a genuine indication that we’ll be good together?
Crushing Behaviour
Hi Crushing Behaviour!
The behaviours that indicate you’re interested in a guy are generated by your subconscious, so they’re quite genuine, especially if you’re shy and find it difficult to express your feelings.
For example, you’ll start remembering the things he says. You’ll also look for excuses to talk to him. If he messages you, you’ll reply quickly. You’ll initiate conversations, often seemingly for no reason, perhaps even recalling the first time you spoke.
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You’ll act a little nervous when you’re around him and you might even feel a little jealous when he’s talking to his friends.
You’ll keep ‘accidentally’ bumping into him because you’ve started spending time in the same places as him. You’ll show off to get his attention, find ways to separate him from his friends and leave your own friends behind to be with him. It’s almost as if you’ve already started dating without saying anything!
When you’re together, you stop messing with your phone. Your eyes are always on him and you’re constantly catching his gaze. You’ll be nicer to his friends and try to sit near him.
Whenever he’s nearby, you’ll find yourself playing with your clothes or hair. You’ll let him into your ‘personal space’, especially during a conversation, and you’ll start touching his hand or arm. You’ll copy the way he gestures or speaks, smile for no reason and even laugh at his worst jokes.
But does all this mean the two of you are meant to be together? Not necessarily. It just means that something about him has clicked with your subconscious, prompting all this ‘attraction behaviour’. This, of course, lets him know that he should make a move on you.
All the best,
Chris