Some women like to call men 'daddy' during sex. Deep in the throws of passion, women have been known to shout out the word, which, you know, might put some people off.

But contrary to what you might believe, it's not due to 'daddy issues'. Deep in the throws of passion, it probably means something much less testing.

Bethy Squires investigated the 'affectionate' term for lifestyle site Broadly.

"Pet names are pretty common among people who have sex with each other," she writes.

"Baby, honey, lil' pudding', tater. One pet name, however, has proven to be more controversial than others: daddy.

"Why do some women call their dudes 'daddy' during sex?"

 Lovers in bed         "Oh daddy"     (Photo: Courtesy)


Well, it appears the reason is a simple one. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin explains that it probably underpins a yearning for 'dominance'.

"I've heard from a fair amount of men who were turned off by it, and were worried that it was an indicator of 'daddy issues'.

"Yes, 'daddy' can mean 'father,' but we also use the word to indicate when someone is the boss, in charge, a protector, or doing a good job.

"That's usually the meaning women are going for in the bedroom. It's a bit of a 70s porn cliche."

"I've never run across a woman who called her partner 'daddy' because she genuinely liked fantasizing that he was her father."

That's not to say that all women want or feel the need to be 'controlled' by a man. In fact, that in itself might offend some women. Though Marin says that for some, it is the case.

Only some women enjoy shouting the word out (Photo: Getty)

She tells Squires: "The general consensus during one Reddit conversation was that women call their partners 'daddy' because they are into submitting to male authority figures.

One woman reveals: "Sir/Master just doesn't have that same affectionate tone to it, know what I mean?"

"Some girls want to call their man daddy in a way that has nothing to do with their father but as a way that communicates she is submissive to your masculinity," another tells the forum.


Dr. Margaret Squires, writer Bethy's mother, has been doing couples therapy for over 35 years and working with survivors of childhood sexual abuse for over 30.

She doesn't believe there's anything particularly paedophiliac about daddy-talk.

Dr Squires tells Broadly: "I think that when that language comes up, it's just as likely to be in a healthy relationship. You're getting back to very early warm attachments.

"That's why we have relationships, so we can rely on each other. It's not necessary for everyone to be equally strong in all things."