Cheating is a topic that easily stirs up all kinds of emotions. People are often divided on issues like, whether it’s okay to cheat after your partner has cheated, why men are more excused if they cheat as compared to women and we’ve also heard people define cheating as ‘exercising options’ especially if it applies to the few wealthy men all women want.
Clearly, different people have varying opinions but at the end of the day, most people would agree they wouldn’t like it if they were cheated on by someone they trusted.
Part of the conversation is whether friends should expose their cheating friends to their partners. Some would quickly agree that cheating should be exposed regardless while others might still agree that it’s not okay arguing that you shouldn’t get involved in people’s private issues.
DO YOU AGREE?
At the end of the day, everyone has a right to decide depending on personal views. But we should investigate this topic further because you might find yourself in this situation one day where your friend, possibly even a married one, is being disloyal.
For argument's sake let us start with the reasons why people would choose to inform their friend’s partner.
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The question that you should ask yourself is whether you would want to be informed if your wife or husband was secretly being unfaithful to you. Would you want your partner’s friends to be real with you and tell you the truth? People who agree can confidently say that they would want to be informed instead of living a lie.
The other major thing is the conscience battle. It might be hard for you to just go on like everything is fine especially if you’re already friends with your friend’s partner.
On the other side are those who wouldn’t dare spill the beans. People have had terrible experiences when this type of situation backfired so the risks are real.
One problem is the possibility of broken trust and a ruined friendship. Your friend might see this as a total invasion of loyalty which means your friendship will never be the same again if it even survives.
Besides that, it’s also disrespectful to reach out to your friend’s partner when you’re not close in the first place. Not that you have bad intentions or anything but, this might not be the best way to handle it.
Then, what happens if you expose your friend and they end up reconciling and resenting you in the end? It happens a lot and this is something to think about as well.
Finally, there is a different answer which is, that it’s all about your approach. They wouldn’t turn a blind eye to what their friend is doing and they wouldn’t snitch either but, they would have that conversation with their friend directly. If they refuse to change, then the decision to maintain a friendship with such a person is on you.
That said, cheating is not okay because it damages lives and families. But before spilling the beans have a serious talk with your friend to let them know what they’re doing is wrong instead of rushing to call their partner.
Hopefully, you will talk some sense into them and they will stop and confess who knows?