When it comes to relationships, we tend to focus too much on the red flags. And who can blame us, especially with all the bad dating experiences!
This info is definitely important but if you’re always so focused on looking for the bad signs, you don’t get to see the positive ones.
As you’re on your journey to finding the right person for you, you should come from a place of confidence and not fear and that’s why you should be keen on the green flags too.
To help you identify the possibility of a fulfilling relationship, here are five major green flags you should be on the lookout for:
· They are emotionally healthy
This is one thing that is constantly overlooked when dating. Some people are attracted to crazy, toxic partners because of the excitement they bring but if you want to actually have something long-lasting this isn’t the way to go.
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You should confirm that someone is at a healthy place emotionally first. If they show that they know how to handle their emotions and express themselves in a healthy way, that’s a green light.
· They are honest about their mistakes
People tend to avoid highlighting the mistakes they’ve made in previous relationships. When you first meet someone who’s interested in you, they might give textbook responses when you ask about their past and this blocks you from knowing who they really are.
When you bring this topic up and you can see they’re taking responsibility for their mistakes instead of blaming someone else, this helps you know they’re a good candidate for a healthy relationship.
· They allow you to be yourself
Sometimes people think that dating should be about fun 24/7. It helps to be with someone who you can enjoy life with but the day to day routine is basic.
If they don’t expect you to be perfect even while you’re just chilling at home and you feel like you can be yourself around them that’s a green flag.
Of course, this isn’t an excuse to not put in any effort when you’re around them though. It just means that you don’t feel the pressure to be excellent all the time or look like you’re about to hit the club every time.
· You have similar values
Having the same values is a foundation that makes healthy relationships work. It'd be hard for two people who have completely different ideas to get along and if you try to make it work, it will be a tough struggle before you get on the same page.
It’s a green flag if you naturally have the same perspectives without forcing it. You don’t have to agree on everything, but it’s great when you generally have a similar mindset.
· They challenge you to be better
There is no point in being with someone who doesn’t help you become better. You shouldn’t stagnate and neither should you end up picking up bad habits from the person you’re with.
You should check whether this person has the potential to guide you in a positive direction. You should also have your life together so that you can make a positive impact on their life too.