I got pregnant after affair and my husband left me
Dear Coleen,
I had a brief affair when my husband was working away with his company and I got pregnant.
I realise how wrong I was to cheat on him and regret it deeply.
I was hoping my husband was the father and kept the affair secret but, when my son was born, it was obvious who his father was.
My husband was so heartbroken he ran out of the delivery room.
He reacted so badly, he kicked both me and my baby out of the house, screamed at us and even went so far as to hit me.
The baby and I are now staying in a hostel until we can find somewhere to live.
I love my husband and I’ve asked about us getting back together, but he says there’s no chance.
I’ve also found out he’s been making offensive remarks about my son and his father.
The problem now is that I slept with my husband to try and win him back – and now I’ve recently found out I’m pregnant with his child.
When I told him, he said he wanted me to get rid of it and that he doesn’t want any child of his being raised with my son. I really need your advice.
Can I get my husband back and have a family with him?
Coleen says.
In the simplest of terms – no. And, more importantly, why would you want to?
I understand his anger at your affair and lying to him over the pregnancy. What I won’t understand are his negative remarks towards your child. He’s using that as a form of punishment, which is very sad for your little boy.
Would you honestly want this man near your new baby when he’s been making bad remarks about him?
I’m shocked you’ve slept with him after what’s happened and had unprotected sex. You need to sort your life out – start by being a bit more realistic.
People usually have affairs because things aren’t right at home, so there were obviously cracks in your relationship and that’s how all of this happened in the first place.
If you do keep this child, you have to start putting your children first and work on making all your lives better without him.