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The most painful moment for any naïve unsuspecting woman is when the man whom they thought would be their knight in shining armour, finally drops the axe and says he no longer wants to be part of your life and that you should terminate the pregnancy. Often times than not, the length of your relationship will not matter.

Here are three ways you can move forward.

1.       Drop any expectations you had of him.

It will hurt over and over again if you keep getting your hopes high and expecting him to behave a certain way. Putting him up against the father of the year pedestal or the most supportive partner will get you depressed. It will be like ripping off the band aid over and over again each time you realize he is not going to match up.

2.       Surround yourself with people who care about you.

In your present condition, it is very easy to drown in self misery. Therefore, a strong support system will do you a lot of good. Surround yourself with positive energy at all times. At all costs avoid being alone lest you get creepy thoughts, an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. You could also find something you love to do and focus your energy into it. Some of the most beautiful stories come from the darkest of times.

3.       Focus on the baby.

At this point, the most important thing is your child and if you put more thought into the possibility of bringing forth life instead of the guy who was not man enough to take responsibility. You will be able to see the rainbow at the end of the storm. All your decisions from henceforth will have to be mature and free from any emotional baggage you might be carrying as you are now responsible for a life that is growing inside you.