Be real with your partner and stop acting like the perfect girlfriend (Shutterstock)

Relationships require a lot of work and commitment. We have to ensure that together with the person we are dating, we are doing the best to keep the relationship afloat.

But we have to admit that we fail at times and we stop trying especially when things get hard but also when we get so comfortable with our partners and we feel like there is no need to do too much.

Wonder why you are always nursing a break up, well, it could probably be because you have some traits that affect your relationships negatively

Before pointing an accusing finger, you really need to sit down and check yourself, and evaluate the role you play in your relationships.

And for that reason, It would be nice if we honestly looked deep down ourselves and pointed out some of the bad habits we bring to our relationships, no matter how close to the heart it hits.

Here are some bad relationship habits we need to ditch in 2021

1.Getting into relationships when we are not ready

Some of us have a bad habit of dating someone as soon as they are single or just for the sake of it.

Don’t get into a relationship because of family pressure, loneliness or just because you are scared of saying no.

Getting into relationships when you are not ready will make you give your least and consequently lose the relationship. You wouldn’t want the same to be done to you so don’t waste someone else’s time and energy. Look for someone who shares the same views as you or better still, wait.


This needs to go. I think it’s time we stopped playing games and being dishonest to our partners. If something is not working out, you need to come straight and express exactly that.

If you messed up, come clean. Relationships are all about forgiveness and patience. If you don’t like what they are doing tell them to change because if you don’t, you will start pulling away, subconsciously or otherwise.

 We have to ensure that we are doing the best to keep the relationship afloat (Shutterstock)


How long will you act like someone you are not? You won’t be able to keep up with the façade for too long. Soon you will start revealing your true character even without knowing. You need to be real towards your partner and stop acting like the perfect girlfriend.

4.Disclosing your relationship issues to everyone

I must admit many women have a weakness when it comes to this and it needs to stop. Privacy is very important in every relationship. You don’t have to tell the whole world about the fight you had the previous night unless it was physical and you need help.

Remember, your friends can influence your decisions and you might sabotage a good relationship for no good reason. Be careful who you share your problems with.

5.It’s time to let go of the tit for tat games

It’s time to stop paying back for silly issues. Just because your partner didn’t pick up your call or respond to a message doesn’t mean you do the same. That’s toxic and very childish.

You need to be mature and understand that things don’t always play in real life like they do in our heads. He could be in a meeting or held up so beat it already.

6.Giving up too soon

No one is perfect. You cannot be walking in and out of every relationship after every issue. You need to learn how to compromise and work out problems. Learn how to deal with issues without calling it quits.

7.Keeping grudges

It’s time we learn to forgive and move on. Holding grudges can eventually lead to you resenting your partner. Learn how to forgive them and accommodate them because we all make mistakes, it’s part of being human.