Humanity has evolved on a big scale. Modern developments have caused changes that have largely conferred advantages to women more than men in the dating scene. By and large, socialisation has been advanced in a way that there is no physical restriction to socialisation.
The fact that physical boundaries have been effectively removed by the ability to move from one place to another means that the opportunity to find better men in the dating scene has been enhanced.
Previously if one was born in the village of Kanyidoto, she was bound to meet suitors from the immediate next village. Other prospects would be hunters crisscrossing the local bushes in search of game meat.
The most sophisticated ones would be traders in the local market, considered the crème del a crème because they carry the profile of exposure of travelling from outside. If a teacher showed interest in a girl, it was considered the greatest prospect for her family.
Teachers were very important people back then, they not only dispensed knowledge to the young ones but also provided rare opportunities for families to improve their financial standing if they married their daughters.
Don’t you just love how in the past rich men or women from reputable families were married off to equally rich families or to royalty? Arranged marriages were routine. The business class married in their circle.
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The political class socialised in their own closed cluster too while the religious rulers ensured that their sons and daughters did not go outside to invite values that would destabilise the religious doctrines they were all accustomed to.
In effect, the paupers were left to marry themselves with only two options, work hard and crawl their way out of their destitution or live the peasantry life forever.
Today, with the invention of social media and the freedom of interaction, poor women can’t stand poor men. Girls whose fathers own nothing look down upon their own kind and set unrealistic standards to lock them out of contention.