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She added that curiosity is normal, suggesting that the distressed woman should ask her boyfriend a positively framed question and avoid pushing the subject too far. A question like; "What went wrong and what do you want to do differently in this relationship?" can't hurt.
Columnist Marin added: "Let me tell you what you already know: getting obsessive about your partner's ex is unhealthy. Tracking down information about the ex only serves to make you feel horrible about yourself. It makes it too easy to get stuck in the comparison trap - judging your body, looks, personality, and life against hers. Then you feel guilty and self-conscious for even stalking in the first place."
And for those, like Selena, who were once involved with someone for a significantly long time- how can they deal with the constant reminders and continue to move on in a healthy way? Peer support network Supportiv advices that recovering from a failed long term relationship requires one to completely disconnect from your ex, understand the stages of grief, feel the emotions and start thinking and focusing on yourself.
"After a break-up, especially a long-term break up, you have to learn what it means to be you outside of a relationship again. You need to return to your home base. Think about what matters to you and what you want," Supportiv writes.