If you’ve ever felt like a fraud, had an idea for a business but failed to act on it because you doubted your abilities, or you feel like you don’t deserve what you’ve got, you’re probably suffering from impostor syndrome.
Impostor syndrome is the belief that your achievements were because of luck. This belief is often false nevertheless sufferers have a difficult time believing otherwise and can’t internalize and own their successes.
Studies have shown that women are more likely to suffer from impostor syndrome than men. It has been noted that men tend to exaggerate their accomplishments and skills where as women tend to downplay them.
If you’re struggling to get rid of these feelings, here are some tips that can help.
1. Acknowledge your feelings
We’re often told to push away negative feelings but this doesn’t help to overcome them. Negative feelings are often an indication of an underlying issue that needs to be addressed.
If you’re feeling like a fraud, ask yourself why. Acknowledge your feelings and find out if those thoughts will help you reach your goals or they’re hindering you.
2. Write a brag list
One of the hardest questions at job interviews is saying what makes you unique. I always feel like I’m bragging and that I shouldn’t. But failing to state your successes can make you lose that chance to get your dream job.
Get into the habit of bragging about your accomplishments. Write a brag list and hang it up where you can see it every day. Share your achievements on social media and any professional forums you’re a part of.
Acknowledging your achievements will help remind you how amazing and talented you are and help you stop feeling like an impostor.
3. Practice positive self-talk
It’s so easy to get lost in self-critical thoughts. Seeing only your shortcomings can be self-defeatist and make you fail to see your capabilities.
Changing how you talk to yourself can help overcome impostor syndrome. When you have negative thoughts, reframe them saying more positive things about yourself. Focus on where you’re excelling in your career and life.
One simple way to get into the habit of positive self-talk is to repeat mantras and your accomplishments to yourself in front of the mirror as you brush your teeth or do your makeup.
4. Speak to trusted friends
Talking about how we feel is very helpful. A trusted friend or therapist can put your thoughts in perspective, reminding you that you are more than your mistakes. Knowing others also suffer from impostor syndrome, that it’s normal to doubt yourself, can be comforting.
Friends will also remind you of your outstanding skills and successes.
5. Learn from your mistakes
One of the sources of self-doubt is getting negative feedback from people. A recruiter might point out your lack of skills or an investor point that your business idea isn’t worth investing in. Don’t let this stop you.
Think of this as positive criticism and use it to improve yourself; sign up for a course, read, join professional forums, reach out to those who are already established in your industry. This will take you out of your comfort zone and equip you with the skills you need to go for your goals.
If you’re suffering from impostor syndrome, remember that you’re not alone. Everyone goes through moments when they doubt themselves. The important thing is that you don’t dwell on these thoughts or let them stop you from pursuing your dreams.