By now you had hoped to have a husband and kids but instead, you’re at home, sad and alone [Courtesy]

It can be very painful to admit that your relationships haven’t been working out how you thought they would. By now you had hoped to have a husband and kids but instead, you’re at home, sad and alone.

There’s no shame in saying that you need to learn how to keep a man because, at the end of the day, you’re hoping to have a wonderful relationship in the future that will actually last.

The reality is that getting a man and keeping him are two different things, and you should be aware of the possible reasons why your relationships aren’t lasting.

You exude masculine energy

Shouting at the top of your lungs that you don’t need no man is doing you a disservice. Maybe this works for some people but your goals are different since you’re actually interested in having a loving relationship with a man.

Besides openly announcing those words, your ‘boss chic’ attitude might also be letting guys know that they need to keep off. Most men feel balanced when they’re dealing with a feminine lady so maybe you can practice how to come back to your natural femininity.

You are self-centered

This is a big turn-off that instantly chases guys away. So many ladies have unfortunately become so self-centered to a point where they’re actually worshiping themselves.

If you’re always so focused on what a man can do for you, that’s probably why you’re having some trouble. You don’t even have to outrightly say it because your actions will let men know that you’re only selfishly interested in what you can take from them.

You are choosing guys who don’t want to be ‘kept’

Handsome and successful men will always be on high demand. They have many options to choose from and chances are, they’re going to only settle down later in life because they simply can.

In the meantime, as they wait, they might temporarily settle and leave after they are bored. Many ladies have unfortunately ended up being victims and if this is you, you have to really think about the men you’re going for.

You have deep emotional problems

We’ve all had to battle emotional struggles at some point in our lives, which is normal. But what makes a difference is whether you’ve chosen to actively seek healing or stay stagnant and continue struggling.

You have to do some introspection and see whether you have a lot of baggage that might be hindering you from having stable relationships.

You can’t run away from this because your emotional issues will affect how you communicate, how you respond to certain situations and every other detail of your personality.

You are not in tune with what men want

Seeking advice from other women is very key. There are important lessons you can learn that you’ll need for your future relationships.

However, you also need to focus on what men are looking for because they’re the ones who understand their needs best. You can try and have open conversations with your dad, your brothers or even male friends so that you can get a fresh perspective and adjust your mentality when it comes to men.