Relationships form an integral part of life in college. For the first time, you have the opportunity to be away from the tutelage of your parents and the freedom to choose who to date and sleep with.

But freedom comes with responsibility. Today, I would love to advise female students to be cautious on who they date while in college. Many college relationships are wasteful and potentially harmful and they hurt women more than they hurt men.

There are two immutable truths when it comes to the life of women. Time and biology serve women more harshly than they serve men. And so, if you waste time dating a loser, or trying to make a relationship that will never work to work, you are wasting time.

So, who are the losers? Any man who does not respect you. Any man who does not respect your time. Any man who does treat you well, abuses you and treats you like a sex machine. Ask yourself, "if I got pregnant, will he be responsible enough to admit and take responsibility or he will go?"

Most women stoop too low to please their boyfriends, who in turn take them for granted. And this can affect the psyche of a girl who thinks she is not good enough. That makes her to give more in a relationship than the man gives.

Another class of losers are the drunkards and drug abusers. You damn well, they will never summon enough ambition to carry them through the vicissitudes of adulthood. So rather than date such a boy for two years, wasting the years with him, you are better off getting quality from a man who is likely to contribute to your growth.

Avoid the cohabiting or marriage trap. Sometimes, you can be misled to try marriage or cohabiting but never make such a decision in haste. Be sure before you commit, because once you live together and babies come and you discover he is not the one, he would have changed your life, often for worse.

So, I urge you, only date men who respect you, who treat you like a queen, who values you and your time. Anything less, he is a loser. But even so, don't so choosy as to deny potential men a chance. For some men, you can grow together. Try but as soon as you notice he is selfish, run girl, run.


campus rover