Doctor, I don’t find my wife sexy anymore

"Doctor, I don't find my wife sexy anymore"

The man said, the Doctor cleared the throat

"Is it the children, have they messed up your time?"

The doctor asked.

"No, the children are now in school.

We can manage to have time together"

The man answered, worried.

"Is it her body; is she unhealthily fat, not like you found her?"

The man sighed and continued.

"Yes, her body has changed. I understand

The pregnancy disfigured her body.

Just like it does many women, but they get their sexy back"

"So you look at younger women?" asked the Doctor.

"Yes, I do. I look at not just younger women

But older women too, I see other women who've had kids,

But they still look good, sexy; they really turn me on.

My wife used to put effort in looking good, dressing well,

Working her body, wearing sexy lingerie for me.

But nowadays, nothing; she's just let loose

She's ever anti-sex, even her breathing has changed"

"Have you slept with another woman?" the Doctor asked.

"No, no I haven't. But I feel I cheat with my eyes.

I practically drool over other women, I stare at them.

How their dress hugs them; things I used to do only with my wife"

"When was the last time you had sex?"

The man shook his head "I can't even remember.

But the worst time, was when I was busy on top of her.

Then she fell asleep while I was in the act"

The Doctor leaned forward "Is it just about her body?"

"No, you know most women think men are just about sex and body;

But her attitude stinks. She is so bitter, so irritable these days.

I can't even woo her. I bring my warmth; she cools it off.

"Are you happy in your marriage?"

"Doctor, how can I be happy when I wake up each morning

To someone who makes me frown? I place my hand on her she pulls away.

I show her my hardness; she slams me with harshness"

"Have you told her about how you feel?"

"I have told her to try and go to the gym, to stop being so uptight.

But the way her face is these days; so combative.

I don't even desire to kiss her lips: she speaks poison"

The Doctor leaned back and said

"It's funny; your wife was here to see me some days ago,

Telling me she no longer finds you sexy or attractive.

She finds it distasteful how addicted you are to pornography.

She says she notices you ogling at other women's chest and buttocks,

But you rarely look at her, you never compliment her.

You don't motivate her by making her feel sexy.

But most of all, she told me there is something you once said.

Something you said some time back that hurt her.

She brought it to your attention, but you brushed it off.

Till today, she hasn't forgiven you, she carries that grudge.

That is what makes her grumpy and bitter.

A woman cannot enjoy making love if her heart is not secure.

She makes love with her heart; if her heart is hurting, sex will be wanting.

Instead of you pointing fingers at each other from different corners,

You two should come to the center, work together to fix this.

Or else your marriage will head to irreversible damage.

Before you know it, you will actualize those desires you have of other women;

She will find her own route of escaping, judging you as her worst enemy.

You two need to be the doctors and heal your marriage"

© Dayan Masinde

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