I am torn between my ex and my current boyfriend. We broke up with my ex over some little issues and started dating my current boyfriend almost immediately after the break-up. Recently, we started communicating with my ex and I realised I still have feelings for him. Now, I don’t know what to do because both guys are amazing and treat me well and I don’t know who to choose. Please help. Lorraine.
Dear Lorraine,
It is good that you have realised that you need to make a decision because it is not fair on either of the guys to string them along.
When choosing between two or more potential partners, you must put into account what you want out of a relationship because only then will you be able to decide who will be the best pick.
They might both like you, but maybe their aspirations and goals in life are not in line with yours. For instance, if having a family is part of your future plans, you should put into consideration what each of them feels about having kids and settling down. It is also important that your potential partner shares some similar interests with you.
If that doesn’t work, you can try analyzing the pro and cons of dating each of them. You can also seek the opinions of your trusted friends or family members. They could be in the best position to offer an objective opinion about the two guys. But remember that ultimately, the decision is yours. The best way, however, is to visualise your life five years from now and imagine what life will be like with either of these men.