By Anne Mungai (@annemungai_)

You have been single for quite some time and you would like to get into the dating world. You are unsure of how things are done but would love to get yourself a man for life or one to enjoy the moments with. So how do you get that man quick and fast before Christmas next month?

Socialize: A great man will not come to your door unless so you need to get yourself pout of whatever rut you are stuck in. Go to religious festivals, parties (decent ones) or even the supermarket. Find something to do that involves socializing and meeting new people. You can even start a hobby, preferably something you like and enjoy.

What kind of man would you like to have? Go places where you think such a man would be hanging out. Is it a library, a church or even a singles get-away.

Be friendly: You may have gotten your heat broken but it’s time to move on and smile. Smile when that guy says hi, you can even initiate the greetings and conversation. Don’t get too serious or scared. Start making small talk with people around you and you will soon learn how its doe, more so for introverts.

Know what you want: Knowing what you want or need will help narrow down exactly what you want in someone. Are you the kind that wants a man who does not smoke? Or maybe you prefer someone you can go out and drink together? This will help you be sure of what you are looking for.

Friendship: Do not socialize with the sole intention of grabbing yourself a man. Socialize to get friends and avoid looking clingy and needy for a boyfriend because the guys can smell a desperate female miles away. Besides, what could go wrong? You will be able to make friends in the long run.

Look good: Be hot, tidy and neat. Be yourself as well. Dress in ways you are comfortable and ways you can let your personality shine. Don’t try to look like Beyonce’ just to get a man, if you know quite well that is not you.

Be a cheerful lady: Be a girl with a sunny disposition and not a bitter woman. Being cheerful and nice makes you happy as well. Nobody wants to hand out with a bitter woman, let alone love one. Lower your guard and be nice. Smile often

Look beyond his looks: At this point you already have a few guys smiling and being nice to you. Do not judge any of them based on how they look. Looks can be deceptive, instead focus on issues like how he treats people, how his spiritual relationship is or even how he treats his mother.

Let things flow: You need to let things go to the next level systematically. Do not try to force things or being the one giving your heart too much too soon. Be flexible and understand him as much as you want him to understand you.

Good luck in getting a man soon .Remember to be confident and avoid looking needy or desperate


love;relationships