Brenda Akumu
I have always admired men’s tenacity when it comes to love. People will throw caution to the wind, do things out of step with their character, and overlook obvious things like age gap, emotional incompatibility, social class and educational background to pursue the one their hearts are after.
You will find a pimpled 16-year-old boy buying flowers, hoping to win the affection of the 28-year-old woman-next door. Or a balding, pot bellied father of three teenagers who still harbours thoughts of dating his friend’s 22-year-old daughter. Just this week a random acquaintance decided it’s his turn to release his "ndossier" and tell me how he can win me. His strategy included taking me to a restaurant where I can eat all I want then drop me by an exhibition where I can shop all I want. "Money is not a problem these days," he told me. I looked at his down phone and his worn out shoes and thought how much more his image could benefit from the money he was willing to splash around. Until then I didn’t know that some men considered these actions warranting a second conversation (not date) with a girl.
Apparently, on that list of things to do to win and keep a girl, has been added, paying her rent and doing her shopping. Such men disregard the possibility that another man could be sleeping in that house you are paying for.
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Men are willing to crucify their pride at the altar of a crush and do the dumbest things just to please a woman. They will fight with another man because he bought you a drink, or hack your email to see who else you are flirting with. Some people will go in debt treating a woman to exotic experiences they would themselves not afford.
Another stunt men pull is to brag about their high financial value, whether it’s in the place they live, their home furnishing, the car they drive, their papa’s money or the people they know. Often you will discover that this over-magnifying of one aspect of their life is just to blind you from their insecurities.
Women too have their fair share of madness, and especially when a relationship is not doing well. Why else do you think a woman will stick by a man even when he is beating her to unconsciousness and abusing her children?
The only saving grace is when you can look back, and you have the object of your love safely in your arms, and know that it was worth it all.
