Why it is important for you to heal first before getting into a relationship

1. If you don't heal, you will attract wounded people and you won't discern it.

2. If you don't heal, you will push away whole people because you think they don't understand you.

3. If you don't heal, you will mistake people who come to help you for a potential spouse.

4. If you don't heal, you might repeat the same romantic mistakes that hurt you in the first place.

5. If you don't heal, you will not be attractive. You might look good and well-dressed from first impression but as people get to know you, they will see the bitter you and keep off. Whole people who have worked on themselves don't want to be stuck with wounded people who are not working on their healing.

6. If you don't heal, you will hurt others and spread the hurt. End the cycle.

7. If you don't heal, you will use sex, money, suicide threats and blackmail to keep people in your life to hide them from dealing with the real messy you

8. If you don't heal, you will not choose the right person for your future.

9. If you don't heal, your ex might remain a threat to your future relationship/marriage as you keep going back.

10. If you don't heal, you will waste time and fail to rise to your fullest potential.

11. If you don't heal, you will mistake attention from many as affection. Making you addicted to flirting and not ready for a serious relationship.

12. If you don't heal, you might use sex, alcohol and drugs to give you a high, leading to you being used and using others.

13. If you don't heal, you will bring a child into a toxic relationship and damage that innocent child/children.

14. If you don't heal, you will get into rebounds and relationships to revenge and prove a point to your sex, sinking deeper in a mess and adding more characters in your miserable love story.

15. If you don't heal, every other aspect of your life will end up being negatively affected and you will end up hating your life.

Love yourself. Heal

© Dayan Masinde

In my book, MANHOOD SERIES, I walk with men through the journey of understanding themselves and their woman.

In my other book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I walk with women through the journey of self-discovery

To purchase the MANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word MAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer.

To purchase the WOMANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word WOMAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer.