There is more to women's love for rich men

I am not a gold digger; I just want the best for me and my future family. I do not understand what puzzles men or angers them so much that when a woman chooses a man who has money over one who is still finding himself financially.

It is a logical choice for any woman to make. Recently I was privy to a conversation held by some of my male colleagues. They were discussing a female colleague who, according to them, was a trifling gold digger.

Her unforgivable crime was letting them know they did not have a chance in hell with her because she was looking for a man more financially stable than they are.

Financial position

Well, it would be all fine and dandy to pick any man no matter his financial position if we all lived in a romantic and perfect happily-ever-after world. Unfortunately, that can only be found in fairy tales, as in the real world bills must be paid.

However, according to my colleagues, a woman should see beyond a man’s pay cheque. She should see his potential, and also love him for what is on the inside and not for what he owns.

Chalk that for those who think it is okay to marry a woman because she has a big butt.

I find it ridiculous how men apply double standards in everything especially in matters relationships. Men believe judging women on the basis of how big their butts and bust are is okay, but when women script their own manual–judging men on the basis of their financial stability, men start foaming at the mouth-sides. 

Men want women to take chances by settling with financially unstable men, hoping they will be stable at some point. Where is the time for that? Well, have I got news for you because although Mr potential may be cute, and maybe one day he may be the next Mr Obama, there is nothing interesting or attractive about playing the role of mother to a grown man.

And judging from stories on the ground and from personal experience in my formative years, when you help grow a man, I assure you he will leave you for a much younger woman. The women of today are not the long-suffering types of yester years who took whatever crap they could get from a man and forgave him for everything.

More exposed

The image of the persevering woman of yore is no longer appealing to the modern-day woman. The woman of today is more educated, exposed, wants more from life and expects more from men.

Further, men who do not have money may not know this, but it is not just money that attracts a woman to a man but the confidence with which a man who has accomplished quite a lot carries himself. If you missed the memo, money makes a man sexier, and more handsome.

All women want is a sexier, confident man who can give them and their future children the best in life. No woman is willing to do guesswork and experiment with financially unstable men. So, gentlemen, if you want a good woman, work hard and make more money. No two ways about it!

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