Someone once said that if people talked about marriage the way they talked about the game of thrones more people would be married, and happily too.

 In this day and age, it is more of a 'come we stay and see if we like it' mentality. To hold off the wedding for as long as possible until the parents ask 'utaoa lini?' (when will you marry?) or worse still start to question your sexuality.

For the millennial, marriage isn't as much a priority as it was twenty years ago, (I should mention here that twenty years ago was 1997...let that sink in) with many wanting to get established financially and have 'fun' before they think of settling down.

 Selling the idea of wedded bliss is becoming harder as time goes by seeing that one can get all the 'fun' without the responsibility promised in marriage.

Reports of wives plotting to kill their husbands or of husbands leaving their families to pursue a career as a 'sponsor' is not helping either.

Standard Digital reported on the rise in divorce cases in Kenya since 2001 and it is quite sad that there would have been more if the rates were cheaper. As a young person reading this it is discouraging, to say the least.

The fact that one could be forced to hand over half of their wealth in a failed marriage regardless of what each party contributed is another scary aspect of pushing things off until 'the right time' I could go on why this is a scary subject for young people but you get my point.

Marriage is an investment however we look at it,and as with every investment there is certain risk question is are the risks worth the reward?

So before we start pressuring our children to "settle down" we need to ask ourselves what examples have we set to give marriage a fighting chance?