As they walked down the aisle, the audience was overwhelmed by the beauty of the bride- the groom was handsome; ladies wished it were them on the red carpet while men had to make song "kula kwa macho" a reality.
I am talking about marriage between Churchill and the lady in the laugh festival. To us, it was just a comedy as Churchill recapped how they ended up together.
As our brother was teaching something, most of us laughed, Job 12:12 “With the ancient is wisdom, and in length of days understanding.” Simply, the wisdom our forefathers had in mind was the reason behind every successful relationship; which are lacking in our present life. At the end of Churchill's act, the couple who met in a bar nearly four months ago was to start a life as husband and wife.
For the past two weeks, cases of domestic violence have dominated our airwaves. The worst was the woman whom the husband chopped off her hands. I am not for violence neither am I against the help she got, what I am against is the way we handle issues as Kenyans. For example, "someone hangs himself on the helicopter, what follows is a ride and money to start a business- what if he had died, would that man had paid for his burial?" Those people who flocked to the woman's home were they for real? It’s time we face the issues affecting us to avoid such incidences and more to come.
I will give my views in two perspectives, which are Christianity and our traditional culture. The Bible is categorical- Ephesians 24-25,28,33- "Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 33Nevertheless, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
As you can see the words used are commanding. Finally, for husbands as the pillars of the family- Colossians 3:19 , 1 Peter 3:7- Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them- in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
In the African culture, marriage was considered as a continuation of lineage. The same way the Bible gives direction on how husband and wife should be; our culture has rules of marriage too. Women were supposed to be submissive; men were to respect their wives- for this to function, each had responsibilities- unless the other party was absent, each had to stick to their accountability.
For the marriage to work sacrifice is needed- don't rush into a relationship because time is against you. It's sad to watch the horrifying news yet we have Africans values- If that is outdated, Christianity has laid structures. It's up to us to decide and do the right thing. If we are African let's be African enough; if we are Christians, let us follow Biblical teachings.
