1. Submit to God as a husband. This will diminish your pride.
2. Have a vision of love that you communicate to her that
she can submit to.
3. Give her clarity and security. Make her know that she is
your priority and focus. When a woman knows that her position is not threatened,
she feels safe and pours herself to the relationship.
4. Be admirable. She will proudly follow your lead when you
bear admirable qualities and character.
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5. Love her up and water her emotions. Women respond to love
by giving love.
6. Do not dictate or Lord over her. Show her gentleness and
consistency. Let her walk by your side not suppressed under you.
7. Protect her as she gives you her all. Don't be her enemy
or make her feel exposed to attacks and she will build with you and help you.
8. Do not silence her voice. She should feel at home enough
to contribute her thoughts and ideas. Submission is not slavery.
9. Avoid advice from men who are intimidating or taking
their wives for granted. She is your responsibility, don't be misled.
How to submit to your husband
1. Submit to God as a wife. This will teach you humility.
2. Be hundred percent committed, not displaying double
mindedness. Participate in the marriage, don't leave everything to him. Use
your voice and your greatness as a helper.
3. Do not demean him or belittle the man that he is based on
his achievements or compare him with others.
4. Communicate that you are proud of him and you believe in
him. Don't show him you might be more excited with or prefer another man.
5. Inspire him and encourage him. Shouting at him or
constantly complaining will not bring out the best in him but only discourages
him.
6. Be gentle with him. Speak with a tone of peace and love.
Respect him in private and in public.
7. Protect him and cover him. Don't gossip about him with
others. Don't mock him or give ammunition to others to bring him down.
8. Do not talk lowly of him or at him just because you have
money, you are successful, you come from a privileged family or you think you
are too beautiful to get any man. Do not bring about a gender war.
9. Avoid women who give wrong advice of fighting your
husband to teach him a hard lesson, having a don't care attitude and who are
not pro-marriage.
© Dayan Masinde
In my book, MANHOOD SERIES, I walk with men through the
journey of understanding themselves and their woman.
In my other book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I walk with women
through the journey of self-discovery and how to relate with the man.
To purchase the MANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde,
MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word MAN and your email address to
the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to
download and read on your phone or computer.
To purchase the WOMANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word WOMAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer.